Sunday, January 24, 2010

Face/Book Anyone?



Today is Sunday. Ever since I've found my way around FB, I've got mesmerized and lost in pages of friends and families. Some friends have been lost to me since 1989...and now, with FB, reading about their life is merely a click away. Thus, I've been quite a 'busy-body' catching up with many of my long lost class-mates and school-mates. Often times, I am just a silent reader. Not daring to acknowledge my presence...shy and worried that they might not even remember me. How many of us have changed. We used to be young school girls - ambitious and idealistic. Now, mostly we are mothers - focused and realistic.

I am glad that my hubby is not at home. He is off for his monthly 3-day khuruj. If he sees me glued to the screen for hours at a time…I might be in for an earful of zihin. I know…I know…time is wasted. ..amal is lessened and khidmat is inferior. Frankly, this internet is addictive . I am weak and in serious need of help. Reading and reading from the i-net; fbs, blogs and e-books are consuming many2 hours of my life. It feels like I am walking into an infinite library…filled and lined with books and books. How do the others do it? How do they use internet casually?

I've always been passionate about reading. Once I get my hands on a good book, then, I will not put it down until the last sentence have been read. This reading habit have caused me quite a many sleepless nights. Some may think that reading is noble. But for me, I am beginning to feel that my reading habit is destructive. When I am engrossed in reading, I tend to ignore everything and anything around me. This includes my family, my daily chores, my career and finally even to the point where my amal will be down to a minimum…i.e. only the fardh. Additionally, when I read, I love to savor each words. I love to create the emotions and situations from the author into my consciousness…thus, sometimes, I read and re-read phrases, sentences , paragraphs and even pages. Speed reading does not exist in my vocabulary. Needless to say, I love my reading.

Thus, reading is my weakness. I know governments and libraries are campaigning for a reading culture. Still, I feel, as a parent, we must be cautious of our children's reading habits. What are they reading? How are they reading and When are they reading? Our children's reading materials must be especially scrutinized. After all, our children are at the time of their life when they are most susceptible to influences. We should ensure that they are reading Islamic ally acceptable contents. From my personal experience, I've learned that reading books on non-Islamic contents have greatly influenced my values and my intellect. I became tolerant and insensitive to many issues which was against my religious beliefs. Of course, I was unaware of this, after all, I was mainly reading novels for pleasure. How harmful are they? Have you read Sidney Sheldon? Some books are quite graphic. What about the Jackie& Joan Collins' novels (which are raunchy), Judith Krantz, Jude Deveraux etc…until I came to Anne Rice and her vampire& witches series (includes devil/satanic verses). Even both the Harry Potter & Twillight series aren't that aligned for young Muslim readers.

Am I overtly sensitive about these issues? You tell me. I guess I sound like the Book Censorship Board. Hmmm…its tough…being a mother means I am concerned about my children's values . Enough said, just be careful of what you feed your children's mind. Books are wonderful...If I have all the time in the world, I would probably curled up in a comfortable spot and read. I am glad that nowadays, many Muslims are starting to write. There are now a wide variety of books to choose from. In both English and Malay, my children can read books which potrays characters with Islamic values. Kudos to the islamic authors and publishers.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Suami & Isteri




ALhamdulillah...Kami baru sahaja menyambut Ulang tahun Perkahwinan yang ke-17. Huhuhu...cepat betul masa berlalu. Macam tak percaya..dah 17 tahun kami bersama. Insya Allah, semoga perkahwinan ini kekal bukan hanya di dunia tetapi juga bersama di alam akhirat.

Baru-baru ini, kami tangguh dari jemaah masturat 10 Hari. Masya Allah,berbagai2 ilmu yg Allah beri. Namun sebenarnya, lebih banyak yg kita belajar dalam usaha ini, lebih banyak yg kita sedar kita tak tahu. Pesan eldest, kita kena buat usaha dakwah dengan rase diri kita tak tau dan nak belajar..barulah ALlah akan didik dan beri kefahaman. Nak faham pula, kita kena buat korban habis-habisan dan sungguh2 sampai kiamat. Takde cuti bagi kita selagi syaitan tak cuti.

Maaf lah sebab sy mmg lembab update blog. Rasa bersalah pd kawan2 kerana tak kongsi sama mcm2 yg saya dapat masa keluar ke jalan ALlah. Insya ALlah, saya azam utk tulis seberapa banyak yg sy dapat. Lagipun, lebih banyak yg saya kongsi, maka lebih banyak yg saya ingat. Iye tak?

Antara yg terkesan dlm hati semasa sy keluar kali ini adalah usaha atas wanita/masturat. Pesan Maulana Saad usaha masturat ini adalah sangat penting dan halus. Walau usha ini penting namun jangan sampai langgar tertib, walau usaha ini halus jangan sampai tak buat langsung. Seorang lelaki, jika dia disanjung seluruh manusia di sekeliling dunia dlm usahanya berdakwah, namun, jika istrinya di rumah membangkang dan membenci, maka susah dan beratlah kerja dakwahnya. Di sebaliknya, seorang lelaki, jika dakwahnya dihina, dicaci dan tidak diterima oleh manusia2 sekelilingnya, namun, jika istrinya menyokong dan memberi galakan, maka mudah dan berjayalah usaha dakwahnya. Begitu lah impactnya seorang istri kepada kerja dakwah suaminya.

Nabi Nuh as. telah berdakwah hampir 950 tahun, siang dan malam, tanpa henti2... Namun, tanpa penerimaan dan sokongan dari istri dan anak2nya, maka hanya setakat 80+ orang yg telah menjadi pengikutnya. Bandingkan pula dengan Nabi Luth, yg juga telah beratus-ratus tahun membuat kerja dakwah. Istrinya bukan setakat tidak mahu menerima malahan istrinya telah menentang habis-habisan. Apabila Nabi Luth telah selesai berdakwah berjumpa kaumnya, maka sejurus kemudian istrinya akan datang berjumpa org yg sama dan mengatakan bahawa Nabi Luth adalah penipu, org gila dsb. Istrinya memburuk2kan dakwah suaminya. Hakikatnya, istrinya telah berdakwah yg sebaliknya dari dakwah suaminya. MasyaAllah. Di akhir2 nya tidak ada satu pun yg menjadi pengikut Nabi Luth angkara perbuatan istrinya. Malah Allah swt tleh menurunkan azab yg sgt pedih kepada Kaum Nabi Luth keran perbuatan mereka yg tidak menerima ajaran Nabi Luth dan sememmangnya melampaui batas. Lihat pula bagaimana nabi junjungan kita, Nabi Muhammad saw, asbab korban istri2 dan anak2nya, MasayaALlah, dalam ms yg sangat singkat, 23 tahun, Islam telah tersebar ke segenap pelusuk dunia. Sehinggakan pd zaman sahabat, Islam telah menjangkau 2/3 dunia. Istri beliau, Khadijah (ra)adalah manusia pertama yg menerima Islam. Sewaktu nabi ketakutan dan ragu2 semasa pulang dr menerima wahyu pertama, Khadijahlah yg tlh mententeramkan nabi. Beliaulah yg tlh memberi kata2 semangat dan galakan kpd suaminya. Beliau tlh memujuk nabi, menghilangkan gundah gulana di hati suaminya. Kata khadijah,pasti Allah swt tidak akan sia-kan nabi saw kerana nabi sebenarnya mmg mempunyai kebaikan2, sifat2 dan keperibadian yg terpuji. Mmg selayaknyalah Muhammad saw dipilih sbg nabi dan rasul. Malahan Khadijah sdri tlh kluar rumah dan mencari saudaranya, seorg pendita Kristian utk mendapatkan khidmat nasihat.

Begitulah seorg istri contoh. Berdiri teguh di sebalik perjuangan suaminya. Khadijah seorg hartawan, bangsawan dan jelitawan...namun utk agama Allah, dia telah korbankan segala-galanya. Di saat kematiaanya, badannya kurus kering, hartanya telah habis di infak ke jalan ALlah dan pendapat serta kata-katanya telah tidak lagi diendahkan oleh masyrakat sekeliling. Rasulullah saw menitiskan airmata mengenangkan keadaan beliau ini. Khadijah, yg terkulai lemah di atas pangkuan suaminya, tersedar apabila titisan airmata sumainya jatuh membasahi pipinya. Apabila suaminya menceritakan kesedihannya melihat keadaan istri yg tercinta, Khadijah telah menghiburkan hati suaminya. Sedikit pun tidak timbuk kesal atau sayu atas setiap yg telah berlaku. Malahan beliau telah menawarkan, apabila beliau wafat, gunalah tulang2nya sbg senjata atau utk dibina titi oleh pejuang2 Islam.

MasyAllah, jika kita dengarkan kisah2 istri dan anak2 rasul & para sahabat...maka pasti kita akan rasa malu pada diri kita sendiri. Bagaimanakah kita jika dibanding dengan mereka. Di manakah kita kelak di akhirat nanti. Dapatkah kita berdiri di hadapan Allah swt? APakah yang akan kita jawab apabila Allah swt tanyakan peranan kita di saat2 agama ALlah swt ditinggalkan. Di saat ini...manusia berbondong2 berlari menuju neraka jahannam. Adakah ada kerut di dahi kita? Adakah kita selesa dan berpuas hati dengan agama yg ada dlm diri kita dan keluarga kita sahaja? Akan terlepsakan kita dari perhitungan Allah swt nanti ? Takutnya saya....